Reducing Stress

A typically idiosyncratic, homemade  video from the pioneer of the DIY musical ethic.

Hope you enjoy. Have a great weekend when you get there, wherever you are.

When someone confides in us about a problem they are facing, it can feel that unless we come up with an instant solution, we haven’t been much use.

Sometimes it’s helpful just to be there and listen, though, and show that you understand how they are feeling.

Perhaps: reassure them that things will be OK, focus on a positive… and give them a hug.  

A hug can help them to feel that they’re not alone, and by implication - help us to feel that we’re not alone, either.

Seek support: talk about it.

Even though it’s often exactly what we feel like doing – try not to isolate yourself when you feel down. It’s not healthy to keep this stress in – doing this can make us feel isolated and silly. Stress can feed on itself and, mentally, we make it bigger than it needs to be, or really is.

It’s amazing how quickly we can start to feel better if we bring a problem out in the open and start to talk about it to someone. Others will normally show interest, give us support and perhaps the odd helpful suggestion of someone who is separated from the situation; the problem will usually start to feel less difficult and distressing.

Who could you talk to?

• Sometimes it’s easier to talk to someone very close to us like a partner or relative.
• Sometimes it’s easier to tell friends or aquantances.
• Sometimes it’s easier to talk to an export or someone ‘anonymous’ on the phone.

So, the next time you feel a bit stressed, angry or upset, contact a friend or relative for a chat. Tell them you’re not feeling great.  They should show interest, and may make helpful suggestions and provide you with comfort and support.

Alternatively, in the UK, the Samaritans offer a confidential service run by good listeners.

My maths isn’t great, but I’d say ‘a problem shared is a problem halved is just about right, and works. Who would you speak to for support?